How to Support a Friend Who Is Grieving During the Darker Months

As winter approaches in Maple Ridge and the days become shorter, many people find that feelings of grief can feel more intense. The darker months often bring quiet, reflective moments that make the absence of a loved one even more noticeable. If you have a friend or family member who is grieving this season, your support can make a meaningful difference.

1. Offer Simple, Consistent Check-Ins

Grief often feels isolating, especially in late fall and winter. A quick message, a warm drink dropped off at their door, or a gentle “thinking of you” can help someone feel seen and supported. These small gestures matter more during the quieter, darker parts of the year.

2. Listen Without Trying to Fix Anything

You don’t need perfect words. What grieving people appreciate most is someone who listens without pressure or advice. Allow them to share memories, feelings, or silence—whatever they need in the moment. Your presence alone can be grounding.

3. Be Patient With Their Energy and Emotions

The holiday season can bring unexpected waves of sadness. Invitations may feel overwhelming, and plans may change. Patience and understanding show your friend that they don’t need to “be okay” before they truly are.

4. Offer Gentle Ways to Spend Time Together

A quiet walk, a casual coffee, or helping with small tasks can be comforting. These low-pressure moments give your friend connection without expectation—something especially important during the winter months when motivation and energy may be low.

5. Encourage Support When Needed

Grief looks different for everyone. If your friend expresses that they’re struggling, gently remind them that support is available in our community. Local grief resources, counselling, and guidance can help them navigate the season with more clarity and comfort.

The Ridge Meadows Hospice Society offers wonderful services to help support anyone who is struggling in their grief journey. In early December, of each year, the Ridge Meadows Hospice Society puts on their "A Time To Remember" service. A Memorial/Candle lighting service that recognizes and honours our grief and loss during the holiday season. This year their event will be held at Garden Hill Funeral Chapel on Wednesday, December 3rd at 7:00pm. All are welcome to this special evening, featuring musical performances, readings by their staff and volunteers, a candle lighting and a photo tribute to our loved ones.